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A default to only show short messages would make it easy to catch short pings, without creating too much noise after configuring an existing email account (while still allowing the user to manually check the full email view for all longer emails, anytime, or to disable the displaying of short emails alltogether). It’s a new mode to the existing options. I consider it as default because it should combine a lower noise level with classic email reachability for really short emails.

If you want to see more or less messages, there are actually considerable other options in the wiki draft.
The current “show emails: no” combines ignoring all emails with wiki option 2.1) Prompt/open tentative chat for all email-chat compliant messages. (Which will need to get separated as soon as spammers use Email-chat.)

Don’t you find the current prompting for “All” tedious? I think manually scrolling through a long list and having an overview is better than getting one prompt after the other.

If you would really want to see every email in deltachat, the wiki suggests to have separate (tentative) chats opened for each email (from [Wiki] Use-cases, chat rules and configuration options):

Chat Approval Mode: “Blacklisting – You may only block individual known contacts, and still see spam.

  • Enable 2.0) “open chat for all messages”. Also allows creating sender specific blacklisting rules.
  • Disable 1) “browse-able New (incoming) Emails” (no need, chats open automatically)

If you only want to see all emails from known contacts (current “Show emails: All”) you may set these two options with:

Chat Approval Mode: “Default – Your email usage automatically approves chat contacts.